tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179784569412245688.post7477903044622923489..comments2023-10-31T06:12:30.139-07:00Comments on Barefoot and in the Kitchen: Gendered CookingUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179784569412245688.post-78081634318612817972011-03-24T09:43:36.554-07:002011-03-24T09:43:36.554-07:00I admit to leaving things out after I use them (pe...I admit to leaving things out after I use them (perishable or not, like you), and then to being annoyed when my husband comes in *while I'm still cooking/baking* and wants to move things around or put them away... and maybe even to snapping at him when he does that. <br />BUT I've learned that he doesn't just do it because "he has a different system" than I do (though he most certainly does have a different (wrong) system), he does it because he's a weird control freak and it, like, pains him to see things disorderly. So I've learned to take pity on him--slightly--and put things away once the thing I'm making is in the oven, or in between stirring it in the pot. But I still make him leave when he comes in and wants to re-arrange things during the process, since he can't just hang out in the kitchen and not "fix it" while being surrounded by so much mess. <br />This arrangement has been accomplished mostly by him getting used to the fact that I'm more disorganized than he is in the kitchen and by me feeling bad for the fact that he's really bothered by me being messy... mainly, that we've both realized that we're just going to have to tolerate a little bit of the other person being wrong if we're going to continue to live together. Which, of course, is our number one priority!<br />And he does the dishes (I hate doing dishes!), which makes feeling bad for him a lot easier!Kyla (@kahlia)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00689986640549629314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179784569412245688.post-70389662229353328892011-03-06T22:18:43.666-08:002011-03-06T22:18:43.666-08:00I'm sorry, I got lost at the part where you sa...I'm sorry, I got lost at the part where you said YOU GOT A JOB!!!!! YAY!!!!! <br /><br />And, um, we have a dual-cook kitchen. So I can't help you with the rest of it. He drives me bonkers when he cooks for the same reasons as you, but I'm happy to ignore and get out, because what he makes is delicious. However, I am becoming psychotic about how he uses and cleans all our nice new cookingware. Grr.A Los Angeles Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15082554090481175349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1179784569412245688.post-25871712822563435942011-03-06T15:22:55.160-08:002011-03-06T15:22:55.160-08:00I was laughing throughout this entire post, becaus...I was laughing throughout this entire post, because I can totally relate to you. My husband is the one who doesn't usually clean up as he goes, but I'm the one who usually screws up the recipe by using too small a pot. <br /><br />The thing that seems to work best for us is to pick our battles. If one of us is doing something that is going to ruin the meal or the cookware, we say something nicely. If it's just a personal preference, we try to just let it go, especially if the other person don't seem receptive to suggestions at the time.<br /><br />Congrats on getting a new job!Robynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10559650778096857126noreply@blogger.com